In this first episode, I am going to introduce you to chapter six of my book Journeys and Stories. As I unveil secrets of the power of calmness, I want you to know that life is a long journey, someone can walk it with you but no one can ever walk it for you. Life is a journey of many travels. It’s either a daring adventure or a disappointing destination. In my opinion, life is a precious gift given to us by God and every chapter of it lived is a new adventure.
While every destination in life leads to a new journey, it has given me many opportunities to explore what has been bestowed upon me and has taught me how to encounter many mysteries that come my way. After my attack sometime in May in 2018 in our home, I learned that life is so fragile and all it takes is a single moment to change everything you take for granted. As we begin a new month this year, I have chosen to celebrate my victory by sharing my story extensively in order to help anyone struggling to collect their puzzle pieces of sanity. Let’s begin by unveiling the secret of the power of calmness by walking through the month of May.
Why is May a very special month? May is a mental health awareness month, it is also a women’s health care month and for that reason, self-care usually shows up in style. In this month of May, six years ago, I narrowly escaped death after physically being assaulted by a stranger in our home. The incident left me traumatized; I suffered a collarbone injury and thereafter battled with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Just like any human being would behave. I lived a life of fear. I might have looked okay, but deep down inside me, I was battling with self-healing as I tried to collect my lost puzzle pieces of sanity. I do not take it for granted that I am now able to tell my story fearlessly in order to uplift someone who is struggling as a victim of PTSD, particularly women. God’s grace is sufficient and I am truly thankful.
As I pen down my feelings, I want you to be honest with you. I won’t pretend to have all the answers to how I survived my fate, but I can promise you that God’s grace is sufficient and that trusting in Him is very important. In the wee hours of May 14th 2018, I found myself in a disastrous moment, so difficult to fathom. I was extremely frightened. I felt my body sweat on that freezing cold night. The voices in my head were so chaotic I could barely think. I wondered whether I was dreaming as the tickling on my feet continued - again and again. All this ended up with victory after stepping into the power of calmness. I immediately embarked on a new self-healing journey by writing my first book entitled "Journeys and Stories" which is my lifetime memoir composed of sixteen chapters aimed at helping women find their rationality.
My book is purposely envisioned to help you heal and grow through life experiences that we might have in common and learn tips on how to fit your lost puzzle pieces together as you travel your own journeys in life.
It is an adventurous collection of sixteen chapters packed with inspirational chronicles of my life experiences that will rouse your inner spirit, help you unpack your limitations, learn skills to embrace the power of calmness and understand how expensive it is to protect your dignity as a woman. Some experiences are gorgeous and some are unpleasant yet adventurous and worthy to discover. Remember, the world is like a book, if you do not travel you only get to read one page and if you do not turn a page you don’t get to know what the story is all about either. I strongly believe that God gave me a second chance to live in this world with a purpose as a vessel of inspiration as I explore the beauty of everything bestowed upon me thereafter.
Remember, we all have our own moments of fear. It’s quite natural to be afraid. You are strong and are capable of doing amazing things in this world. It doesn’t matter how small it may be. You are stronger than you think. Based on my experience and to my own opinion, writing Journeys and Stories has given me room to learn some powerful tactics that have assisted me in walking a successful self-healing journey that I do believe could be of help in your own journey too. I have prudently curated a docuseries with sensational episodes of self-healing and acceptance. When I talk of self-healing I don’t necessarily mean that I completely relied on myself to heal; but what I mean is the right support I looked for and the resources that I used in supporting my entire healing journey.
For instance, traveling alone can be a huge expedition of self-discovery. I took advantage of it to achieve my goals. Many people experiencing mental health dilemmas fail to meet their goals due to stigmatization and lack of proper support systems. As we begin the month of May, it is my goal to share my story without any shame whatsoever simply because vulnerability has no shame. The truth is life is like a book; some chapters are sad and some happy. Some are exciting and some require you to be vulnerable, but if you don’t turn a page you’ll never get to know what the next chapter holds.
Well, in many cultures and societies, being vulnerable can also mean revealing your weaknesses and surrendering control. It makes sense that we feel uncomfortable or afraid if we acknowledge that allowing ourselves to be open and exposed means risking being taken advantage of or hurt. The following tips helped me attain my sanity faster than I thought.
· It is quite expensive to protect your dignity. Losing your self-worth can leave you with a painful wound. Therefore fight your battle fearlessly when you ever find yourself in such a situation like mine.
· True friends are so occasional to find. And the best season to learn this is when you are in problems. You’ll get to know who your true friends, your followers and your foes are.
· You are not too weak to save your life from danger. You have an amazing well of strength inside you. You just haven’t realized yet.
· Calmness is a powerful tool towards adversity. It is quite hard to practice but it is also very achievable.
· Self-healing is a long journey but quite rewarding. The only thing you have to do to achieve it is consistency.
· You are not the only one in this world with challenges. Everyone has their own bucket list of problems to solve. So going around looking for sympathy will not help. Many people have no time for others. That’s just how people are.
· Never let go of your sails when in a storm.
